Abuse Recovery
Online and In-Person Counseling for
Complex Trauma, Neurodivergence, and More
Abuse Recovery & Complex Trauma
Healing from a relationship with a narcissistic partner or an emotionally immature parent often feels like trying to find your footing in a landscape that shifts every time you take a step. You might spend your days in a state of deep confusion, trying to make sense of the senseless. When they accuse you of being dishonest or uncaring, your first instinct is likely to look inward—to wonder what you could have possibly done to make them feel that way—because you cannot fathom treating another person with such suspicion or cruelty.
This is the core of coercive control. It is a slow, quiet process of isolation that makes you question your own sanity and goodness. It’s often less painful to believe you’ve made a mistake than to accept the reality that someone you love is operating from a worldview centered on power and control.
This pattern often has roots in what Dr. Jennifer Freyd calls betrayal blindness. If you grew up in a home where you had to manage a parent’s emotions just to stay safe, your brain learned to justify their harm, dissociate from the pain, or internalize the blame just to survive. Whether you were the Golden Child over-functioning to meet impossible standards or the Scapegoat carrying the family’s shame, you may have learned that your safety depends on meeting someone else’s fragile ego.
Whether you are currently in a war of attrition over custody, navigating a “high-conflict” divorce, or finally realizing that your perfectionism is actually a survival response to childhood emotional neglect, I provide a space where we call things by their real names. You might be a good fit for my Recovering from Narcissistic Abuse group if you’re relating to a lot of this. Check it out and let me know if you’d like to participate.
What to Expect
Recovery is the process of moving from "How do I fix this?" to "How do I reclaim myself?" We work to deconstruct the mechanics of the abuse—whether it’s gaslighting, enmeshment, or toxic communication patterns like DARVO and JADE. Over time, this will help you to reestablish trust in yourself and feel more empowered to make choices based on your wants and needs, instead of trying to manage or prevent a reaction from someone else.
We often focus on:
Restoring Your Reality: Moving out of the fog of confusion and seeing the patterns of manipulation and control for what they actually are.
Dissociative Recovery: I specialize in the dissociation that often follows long-term trauma. If you struggle with memory gaps, feeling outside your body, or a sense of being fragmented, we work to gently re-establish internal safety.
Ending the Over-functioning: Processing the burnout that comes from trying to prove your worth or manage an abuser’s emotions for them.
Healing Sexual Trauma: Providing a trauma-informed space to process childhood sexual abuse or sexual trauma within relationships, and the specific ways these impact your current intimacy and self-worth.
Navigating the War: Providing strategic emotional support for those in the legal and logistical trenches of separating from a high-conflict partner.
My goal is to help you stop the internal war and start building a life where your safety and your goodness are no longer up for debate. I work with the Utah Office for Victims of Crime, which might also be a way to support yourself financially in this process.
